We need to endure different stress in different stages of our life.
When we were young, we went through stress like exam stress and puppy love stress.
As we got older, when we started working, we were hit by stress in all aspect because our life was still a rocking boat voyage. We had work stress, relationship stress, family stress, money stress, friendship stress, responsibility stress and stress due to our uncertainties in life.
As we got older, when we started working, we were hit by stress in all aspect because our life was still a rocking boat voyage. We had work stress, relationship stress, family stress, money stress, friendship stress, responsibility stress and stress due to our uncertainties in life.
As we settled down in our life, got married and had a strong career, we had children stress, commitment stress, for men - wife stress and for women - husband stress.
When we got older, our children all grown up, we got stressed up over our child's issues.
Stress can really hurt us badly in many ways. At work, they decreases our quality of work and our effectiveness goes down drastically. In relationship, we pick up unnecessary fights with our partners, friends and family because we are emotional and easily provoke. At certain point, we might even start to neglect our job and our relationship. Stress can give you sleepless nights and also recurring headaches.
Do you know that negativity causes unnecessary stress? For example, when you generalize things, it makes life miserable. Women always have this thinking that all rich men will have a second wife. So does that mean all women must find a poor husband? Men always think that all women are materialistic. So does that mean poor men can't have a wife? It makes life miserable when you make conclusions like that, it creates unnecessary stress.
I have got this one negative statement that came from a friend of mine that totally blows me off my mind. He was fetching me to dinner one night. It was about to rain. We were driving around looking for a car park. I saw a space which is quite a distance from the eating place. I told my friend about and he gave me this answer that seriously drives me mad. He said, "I'm not so stupid to park so far because it is going to rain and when it rains while we are leaving, you will most probably ask me to walk to my car and drive over to fetch you." I replied, "What makes you think so?" He replied me, "All human also like that." I was totally disappointed with him. I personally think it is a very negative statement. Maybe he had this bad experience before but not everyone is like that.
Here's another situation. I was talking to a friend of mine about my recent change in life. I told her she can also do it. Just by sitting at home will not make any difference to her life. After some debate with her, she told me, "I'm happy for you that you can do what you love but you don't know my situation." I think it is normal for me not to understand her situation but what is destructive here is when she pretend she had no choice just by constantly giving herself excuses. Moreover, there are no reasons for me to understand her situation if she chooses to stay in her unnecessary stressful condition.
Why do we need to handle stress? A stress-free like is a happy life. =)
Here is something for you to release stress...
In Part 3, we will talk about managing stress. ;)
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